Every day we are faced with decisions.  From what to wear in the morning, to whether or not to take that new job and move across the country.  The decisions I'm talking about today are the ones that come into play in our daily interactions with people. 

I know you have been in a situation where after the fact, you wish you would have handled it differently, or better.  (Now I am not talking about where someone hurls an insult at you and later you realize all the 4 letter words you missed calling them).  An example would be: you are in a stale relationship that isn't going anywhere.  Its comfortable to stay in it, but you know in the long run its not going to work out.

So I ask you, what would your best self do?  I think Oprah has thrown this question out a lot in the past few years, but I have been asking clients this WAY before she brought that tall bald PhD guy onto her show.  Regardless, its a good one to ask yourself.  Especially when you have an expensive vase in your hand that you are moments away from throwing at your husband's head.

Your best self would nod out of the not-so-fresh relationship gracefully, and communicate to your partner your feelings about why you don't see it working out.  Without blaming or bad words.  Taking responsibility for your part and leaving the relationship with dignity, along with lessons learned from that person and experience.  NOT by saying "Its not you, its me", or some other cowardly excuse that will only leave you feeling badly about yourself.

When you act on what your best self would do, you come out of it stronger, imparting light on another person, and climbing that upward staircase of enlightenment.