The Good Guy
It's not that hard to figure out. There are good guys and there are bad guys. If you are lucky enough to be with one of the good guys, my question is....Why do we ever even cross that line of going from kind, sweet wife/girlfriend/loved one, to debating, defensive woman-with-an-agenda that needs to be right, right, right and put him in his proverbial place? Why aren't you thanking your lucky stars every single day?
Maybe you have no idea what I'm talking about. But I think most women who are blessed with one of the "good guys", knows that often we do our best to get under their skin, push their buttons, argue with them, offer an opposite perspective....with really no good reason. We think there might be a good reason....but really...no good reason. Yeah, you might think you're right, but, is that really a good reason???
My saving grace is to remember and think about what an amazing man my husband is. Sure he has his flaws...but all he really wants out of life is to make me happy. MAKE ME HAPPY!!!!!! I should be doing cartwheels, flips and jumps, shouting his name from the rooftops, writing short stories in his honor but still I find a way to be not as sweet as I know I should be. Hopefully that is only about .09 % of the time but I cringe to think it is more.
Is this a woman thing? I hope not. Maybe its a Jen Yates thing. I would prefer that. But I have too many friends and too many clients to know that other women are doing the same thing. "Abusing" their men. Maybe that's how they dealt with their dad. Maybe they didn't have a dad and are taking it out on their man. Maybe burnt by a bunch of jack offs who treated them really poorly, and they don't know what to do with one of the good guys. Maybe there is no logical explanation for why they feel that need to pick, pick, pick.
My hope is that next time you feel like harping on your guy for the socks on the floor, or the task undone, or the anniversary card forgotten, that you remember all the amazing things he does for you. How beautifully he treats you. And that you deserve it.
Let's focus on the good, ladies.
Maybe you have no idea what I'm talking about. But I think most women who are blessed with one of the "good guys", knows that often we do our best to get under their skin, push their buttons, argue with them, offer an opposite perspective....with really no good reason. We think there might be a good reason....but really...no good reason. Yeah, you might think you're right, but, is that really a good reason???
My saving grace is to remember and think about what an amazing man my husband is. Sure he has his flaws...but all he really wants out of life is to make me happy. MAKE ME HAPPY!!!!!! I should be doing cartwheels, flips and jumps, shouting his name from the rooftops, writing short stories in his honor but still I find a way to be not as sweet as I know I should be. Hopefully that is only about .09 % of the time but I cringe to think it is more.
Is this a woman thing? I hope not. Maybe its a Jen Yates thing. I would prefer that. But I have too many friends and too many clients to know that other women are doing the same thing. "Abusing" their men. Maybe that's how they dealt with their dad. Maybe they didn't have a dad and are taking it out on their man. Maybe burnt by a bunch of jack offs who treated them really poorly, and they don't know what to do with one of the good guys. Maybe there is no logical explanation for why they feel that need to pick, pick, pick.
My hope is that next time you feel like harping on your guy for the socks on the floor, or the task undone, or the anniversary card forgotten, that you remember all the amazing things he does for you. How beautifully he treats you. And that you deserve it.
Let's focus on the good, ladies.
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