Your thighs are not too fat
As a woman, I don't know one of us who is not concerned about her body. Do you? Moreover, I don't know one woman who does not dislike something about her body. Some are vocal and some are not. "Do these jeans make my butt look fat?", "I can't believe I just ate that, my thighs are HUGE!", "Black is slimming", etc., etc. Most women are very self-conscious about how they look and wish they were smaller, tighter, thinner, less this more that, and so on.
We compare ourselves to the other women in the gym, at work, on the street, where ever. It is ingrained in our brains from a very very early age that we have to have red lips and slim hips, cat eyes and thin thighs, very thin with glowing skin. We are inundated with messages from the media that 14% body fat is healthy (what we often see on models and actresses), when actually 22-33% is in the healthy range. We diet and exercise in unhealthy ways, and then sit down at most restaurants that serve portions that are 2-5 times larger than a "healthy" portion. This is the society we live in.
The GOOD NEWS is that as we get older, we tend to get more and more comfortable in our skin. We care less and less about what people think about us, and we come from an intrinsic place of motivation (i.e. motivated by wanting to be healthier for ourselves). We go out with no make up, hair in a bun and really don't give a rat's patootie if you are looking at us or not.
The BAD NEWS is that I know so many ladies and have too many clients that are in their 30's, 40's and 50's that are still feeling like they have to live up to some unrealistic ideal. I say to them....you are extraordinary. Who in your life told you that you weren't? When were you given the message that you need to be different or change something about yourself? Were you criticized by a parent, a teacher, a husband? Ask yourself, your friends and your clients, to focus on their strengths, and change their thinking about what is ideal and what is real.
But I can tell you all day how incredible you are. You just have to believe it yourself.
We compare ourselves to the other women in the gym, at work, on the street, where ever. It is ingrained in our brains from a very very early age that we have to have red lips and slim hips, cat eyes and thin thighs, very thin with glowing skin. We are inundated with messages from the media that 14% body fat is healthy (what we often see on models and actresses), when actually 22-33% is in the healthy range. We diet and exercise in unhealthy ways, and then sit down at most restaurants that serve portions that are 2-5 times larger than a "healthy" portion. This is the society we live in.
The GOOD NEWS is that as we get older, we tend to get more and more comfortable in our skin. We care less and less about what people think about us, and we come from an intrinsic place of motivation (i.e. motivated by wanting to be healthier for ourselves). We go out with no make up, hair in a bun and really don't give a rat's patootie if you are looking at us or not.
The BAD NEWS is that I know so many ladies and have too many clients that are in their 30's, 40's and 50's that are still feeling like they have to live up to some unrealistic ideal. I say to them....you are extraordinary. Who in your life told you that you weren't? When were you given the message that you need to be different or change something about yourself? Were you criticized by a parent, a teacher, a husband? Ask yourself, your friends and your clients, to focus on their strengths, and change their thinking about what is ideal and what is real.
But I can tell you all day how incredible you are. You just have to believe it yourself.
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